I have a theory. I believe the reason that I, among all cute girls, don't have a boyfriend is because I'm too cute.
Now, please stay with me. No, I'm not full of myself nor am I delusional. The reason why is because guys are naturally more visual and therefore, more inclined to be attracted to girls that have a more obvious beauty. So girls like me are left to feel insecure and alone. But the only justification I have is not that I'm not good enough or there's something inherently gross about my demeanor. I've concluded that I'm too cute. Guys see me and I remind them of a little girl, a child, a little sister. So, naturally, they wouldn't pursue someone what reminds them of a sister. What eventually happens is that I'm seen as a friend, someone they can confide in about their endeavors with women and the hot date they have at the end of the week.
...maybe a little delusional.
*sigh. It's sad. Every time I meet a guy, I immediately think of what are the chances of me being attracted to him. Usually it's a no, but why do I do that? I think every chance I meet a guy is an opportunity to meet the man of my life. Is that wrong? Should I have a healthier mentality about men? And if I do need to shift gears, how do I consciously stop looking? I imagine myself, talking to myself, "Stop looking, stop loooking, STOP LOOKING!" Really?
Maybe, just maybe. Guys' standards have risen as well. Granted, I haven't talked to too many guys. But maybe the reason that all my friends are single isn't because there's something wrong with us, but something wrong with them! Ha. They just can't see a good thing coming unless it hits them.
No, no, no. I'm starting to think too much or too wayward. God is in charge. he appoints the one we're to be with under the appropriate circumstances. There's no need to rush or come to hasty conclusions because God's plan is perfect. I just need to believe in His perfection and have faith in His provision. Will I ever learn?
2 comments:
Does God really choose a perfect spouse for every person, though? And if so, how do you know he's "The One?"
My rationalisation for not having a girlfriend is that too many Christian girls believe this myth. Since I've yet to sprout a halo and a dozen singing angels while asking out, I'm obviously not the one.
Why is it considered immature and unspiritual to want to date or get married? Maybe we've substituted suppressing our desires for taking them to God...
Correct me if I'm wrong, but I do agree that our desires are what drives us to God. And that's my ultimate hope...that I become so hungry for God because I know that only He can provide those things. And I believe that God isn't going to clearly post a sign on the man's back that reads, "The One." But, when everything kind of falls into place and when everything is just right, through counseling and prayer, I think nothing else but God's blessing and encouragement to proceed in relationship/courtship...all under the right circumstances.
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